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I read something noteworthy not long back that moved me to tears. Eighteen-year-old Shawn Hornbeck, who was abducted by a predator at age eleven and held in captivity for over 4 years (he was found two years ago), wanted to share numerous of his perceptivities in regards to the experience with Jaycee Dugard, who was also abducted at age eleven and not so long ago found after 18 years in captivity. He said in an interview: “I had a lot of built-up anger afterwards, which is normal.

But this anger may take control of your life if you’re not careful. Going to therapy genuinely helped me get everything in order. One of the things that genuinely helped me…is that we talked with regards to how I could better myself from what happened to me, how could I use all those terrible, astounding experiences I had, to grow and mature. I recognise it sounds crazy, but those experiences have made me a better person.”

Wow! After all the horrors that he’d endured, this young man turned his victim’s journeying into a hero’s traveling by finding gold in his experience, finding the gift in his wound, and sharing this gift with others. He also freed himself from the captivity of his anger and bitterness. That is the extreme freedom! And it is no little feat.

I recognise what it’s like to be a captive of resentment. It has been an ongoing teacher of mine. For years I was addicted to ‘stewing’, simmering in a soup opera of resentment, sentiment victimized, wronged, and ripped off. Anyone who has ever been trapped in resentment knows what a powerful, addictive strength it is. Hanging on to sentiment wronged becomes more indispensable than anything, more important than freedom from it, more crucial than love.

I vividly do not forget one day when I was in regards to eighteen years old driving to work at the New London Submarine Base, stuck in traffic and stuck in a stew with regards to my life, and singing, with tears and strong emotion, along to The Young Rascals song playing on the radio, People Gotta Be Free: “All the world over so easy to see. People everyplace just wanna be free.”

I felt a deep longing to be FREE from the captivity of negativity and anger. I had started reading in regards to how my thoughts and complex mental states fabricate my reality. The truth of that strongly resonated with me. I could see that it was my attitude that was creating my unhappiness. Nobody was making me angry…I was responding with anger, and then dwelling in it, making myself stew, creating a negative attitude that made me a magnet for misfortune, drawing to me more things to be resentful about. I realized that my resentment was far more damaging that anything any individual could ever do to me — I was only hurting myself. I set out on a lifelong quest to free myself from the confines of my negative attitude.

On this quest I at long last learned to become a “miner”; I came upon how to mine gold from my anger by seeing what is MINE, seeing my share in things, seeing how I was contributing to my own misery, seeing that I may choose to hang on to anger or let it go. I may choose to be a bitter person, or a better person because of my experiences. I may choose to dwell in the hell of The Heartbreak Hotel, or dwell in love. I may choose captivity or freedom. And I may choose to mine gold from any situation.

I’d like to percentage some keys to freedom that I’ve found along the way. When I detect myself sentiment wronged and starting to spiral down into that sticky, stuck, stewing place, I do the following:

1. I witness myself, observing the physical sensations of resentment, such as a tightening of my body, shoal breath, eyes narrowed, lips pursed. Becoming conscious of the contractive prison of my body enclosing me, and realizing that I am doing that to myself, helps me to take a breath and start out to shift into a more expanded place.

2. I receive that it is what it is. I take a deep breath…accepting…there’s not one thing I may do with regards to it…it happened…it is what is.

3. I concede and align with what I’m feeling. I tell myself, “Yes, this sucks. I comprehend how you would feel upset. Let yourself feel it fully.” My hard stance begins to melt, permitting me to feel the sadness that lies underneath the anger.

4. I generate loving benignity towards myself, talking to myself with compassion, as if I’m talking to a wounded child, verbally hugging myself. “I’m sorry this happened. I know this is hard for you. I’m here for you. I love you.”

5. Finally, I mine gold from the experience — learning from it and owning what is mine; and then, seeing how it has made me a better person, a more inviolable person, a more empowered person.

All this results in FREEDOM, with the added bonus of a great deal of gold nuggets in your pockets to share with others. “There’s gold in them thar ills and there’s a great deal for everyone!” Just think, if Shawn Hornbeck may find the gold in his experience, then any person can.

Have you ever been held captive by your resentment? What are ways you have freed yourself from that captivity? What is the gold that you mined from the experience? When we’re capable to do that, as the Young Rascals sang, “There’ll be shouting from the mountains on out to the sea. No two ways in regards to it, people have to be free.”

©2009 Janet Jacobsen

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